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Husband wants 4 day camping trip w/ guy friend & girl, should he go?????

My husband is a wonderful man that works hard & likes to be out in nature. Recently, a friend came up w/ idea of a 4 day camping trip down some river & "roughing" it. I don't want to go (4 DAYS!! I'll go camping, but not for 4 days w/ out shower, phone, etc.....) However, he still wants to go & aside from a little wife worry & no phone, I normally wouldn't mind. The problem is that the friends' girlfriend wants to go & I think she a little crush on my husband. I've explained to him nicely, that I don't feel comfortable w/ him going w/out me. I don't think he'd cheat! We have a stable loving marriage, I just don't trust this other girl....never have. The situation is obvious......her man doesn't have a job, has gained a lot of weight recently & in my eyes, I would never give the time of day to. On other hand, my husband is in a stable marriage w/ a career & quite more handsome. Do I let him go or am I in the right to say no???

Public Comments

1. You go. Don't pass go and don't collect $200. GO! GO!!!
2. sounds like you are insecure and he should go, although the GF might turn into a pain,, shame on you for not going, there is ways to bath. I would not go out with a gal that cant clean up camping with baby wipes, and look forward to that hot shower when getting back home, heck sometimes me and the wife or GF would knock it out in the shower cleaning each other up,, is fun,, so if you dont want to go, dont limit his time on earth to be filled with regret,
3. The answer comes down to do you trust your husband? Well if you do there should be not problem with him going on a camping trip with a couple and some other friends. If you are that worried about it suck it up and go with him
4. Can you say insecure? Either you trust him or you don't. It's that simple!!!
5. Well, based on your other question about this "girlfriend" crushing on your husband, I wouldn't want him to go, either!
6. let him go...you are both adults and he needs this time to be with the boys. why does this girl have to tag-a-long? i don't understand why she is going with 4 guys...she needs to leave them to go and be men. i understand you don't trust HER, but as long as you trust your husband, everything should be fine. tell your hubby to talk to the friend to try to talk him into leaving his girl at home...
7. Actually if I were that concerned, I'd go camping. I would rather be uncomfortable materialistically for 4 days than uncomfortable emotionally for 4 days (that would seem like 4 years) Going on the trip would not only bypass a potential fight with your husband, you would show this girl who is by side and who he loves.
8. you have to trust him. That is what love and marriage is all about. I would ask my husband to tell me if she does try anything and reassure him that you trust him to set her straight and to have a good time. then when he returns if she did try anything i would confront her and call her out on it. and would tell her so called boyfriend too.
9. You say, "I don't think he'd cheat!" So what's the problem? Why do you have to trust the buddy's gf? Look at it this way: it takes two people to have sex. Without your husband's consent, the girl can't have sex with him. Therefore, it doesn't matter whether you trust her or not. It sounds to me like if you told him he couldn't go, you would be punishing your blameless husband because of this other chick's personality. That's not fair to your husband.
10. Just because you don't want to go for petty reasons, doesn't mean he shouldn't go. It's only 4 days without a few things, what's the big deal?!! LOL! It's not forever! Why sit and argue about this because the guys girlfriend wants to go? Swallow your pride and join them!! If not, let him go without a fight. It's summer time and a perfect time for camping & river activities. :)
11. Go. Then you won't have to worry whats going on - you will be there. I'm sure they make all kinds of things now to make you feel clean and comfortable when camping. You might find you like camping more and it can become a hobby you both enjoy.
12. So... he wants you to go, but you dont want to. But you dont want him to go because of the other guy's GF. I think that he had planned it for two couples to go and now you are ditching him. You need to either suck it up and go, or let him go without an ounce of guilt. Yes you let him go and you are in the WRONG to say no.
13. Go with him.
14. if you trust him then yes let him go. he has the will power to call the other girl off if she tries something. You don't own your husband- this is what a lot of people think in one way or another. They think that they can control what the other does or will do. Thing is both of you were your own person before the marriage and you will be after the marriage. Leave it up to him and what he thinks he should do. Sounds to me that you are a little ensecue as well.
15. it really all depends on the communication that you both have with each other. if you think that you can trust them both and you will feel relaxed with the situation all weekend long then let him go if you think you will spend all weekend worried then don't. my opinion, if it were my husband... i would make the sacrifice and go with him. I HATE camping and fishing and all the outdoor stuff, but every once in a while i suck it up and go... i don't even complaint once and i have fun doing something that my hubby enjoys. i mean if your husband is such a great man and he works so hard can't you budge a couple of days? I'm sure that he prefers you going than him going by himself with his friend and his girlfriend. if it were just the boys then it's a different story... i say go and have fun with your husband! (but don't forget to keep an eye out for the girlfriend)
16. you have two choices really... go with him or trust him,
17. Stop complaining and just go. If you are truly that insecure with yourself / your marriage, then he will see that and wonder if he has made the right decision. If you trust him and truly don't want to go, put something sexy of yours in his suitcase/backpack for him to think of you while he is away. It is always a great surprise for me when you wife puts a "picture" of herself in my suitcase when I am traveling. It makes me think of her and I can't wait until I get home. If you don't go, make sure that you ask him about the trip, don't be pushy or judgmental, but act like you are interested even if you aren't. Men like confidence in a woman and right now you aren't showing this (at least by this e-mail), so after he gets back, show him how much you missed him and have something "special" waiting for him in the bedroom when he gets home.
18. I see no problem. Unless they have a menage d'trois in mind to happen during the trip, it should be perfectly safe. The girl may just be the type to be friendly and nothing more. And there are many camping facilities now that are equipped with showers these days, maybe there's one available there. You may want to sacrifice and go just to be sure, but you say yourself he's a good man, and suggest to me that on his part he can be trusted.
19. Just because you are insecure doesn't mean you should ruin his chances at a wonderful 4 day camping trip. They are adults that are going, not teenagers. If you really can't trust your husband, then maybe you two need to work on that issue. You do have the right to say no.....but what is the real reason behind it? Do you actually need him home with you for something or are you going to make him stay for an insecure and selfish reason?
20. You say you trust him but not her well if he is trustworthy it don't matter what she does he will push her away... I'm not being mean here are you in the same boat as her man you know put on a few extra pounds and have a little self-esteem issues? Let him go it's not like they're going to pull a train on her, her man will be there..
21. You have the right to say no under the circumstances. Don't let him go. It's plain to see what might happen.
22. The right thing to do would be for you to go on the trip. Take some wipes to clean up with and let the friend's girlfriend know exactly where she stands. A lot of marriages are ruined over opportunity so its perfectly acceptable for you to make sure that there never is opportunity. Don't cancel the trip for him though, that would just cause resentment.
23. Bianca, you can't "let" him go, he's a grown man. You can explain your fears, express your wishes and then let him do what he wants. If he goes, after you have explained and expressed, well then I'd have to wonder how "stable" your marriage really is. A man who loves his wife would take these things into serious consideration, count the pros and cons of such a situation and then decide that staying home with you is the better choice. But again, you can't make this decision for him. You either trust HIM or you don't. She can do whatever she wants, but he is the one who has to be faithful to you. If he's never lied to you or given you a reason to distrust him, then trust him now to do the right thing.